Peak Non-Creepy Dating Pool

As you get older, the percentage of people your age who are married increases and the percentage who have never married decreases. This must mean your dating pool gets smaller with time, right? Well, this assumes you marry someone who is your age. What if you marry someone who is older or younger than you?

Thanks to the internet, we have a concrete dateable range given your age: the “half-your-age-plus-seven” rule. It’s on Wikipedia, so it’s basically law. Comic xkcd describes it as the standard creepiness rule:

So as you get older, your dating pool’s age range increases, as shown in the chart below:

Dating Pool Based On Creepiness Rule

Partner's Age

100

80

Oldest

60

Your age

40

Youngest

20

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0

20

40

60

80

100

Your Age

Partner's Age

100

80

Oldest

60

Your age

40

Youngest

20

0

0

20

40

60

80

100

Your Age

Huh, that’s interesting. So if we account for the range and actual demographics counted by the U.S. Census Bureau, I wonder when your dating pool peaks. Does the peak change between different groups?

In the charts that follow I look for the ages at which your dating pool is the largest, based on demographics and the standard creepiness rule (which only applies to those 14 and older).

Considering Only Age

The dating pool peaks in your late 40s if you look at the 14 and older population as a whole.

Looking for Single People

If you rule out anyone who is already married, the total counts decrease, but the peak stays at the same age.

Looking for Single Men

However, if you are only interested in single men, peak dating pool shifts to late 30s.

Looking for Single Women

In contrast to looking for single men, the peak age increases just past 50 if you want to date a single woman. Women live longer than men.

Keep Looking For Single…

Sex

All
Male
Female

Employment

All
Has Job
No Job

Race or Origin

All
White
Black
Asian
Native
Hispanic

So there you go. Peak dating age. Thanks, xkcd for another enlightening lesson in life.

The difference in dating pool for men and women surprised me the most. However, it makes sense. Men die earlier, so while the available age range increases, the population available decreases. In contrast, women live longer, which means for those looking for single women, the age range increases and the population decreases slower.

This method is not without its caveats though. Aside from the validity of the standard creepiness rule, there are limitations to the data, which comes from the Census Bureau’s five-year American Community Survey 2016. The survey does not ask sexual orientation, so there is no way to see how that would shift the distributions.

Also, age is only available as whole numbers, so I could not count on a continuous scale. That’s why the curves are jagged. I thought about averaging counts for the odd-numbered ages but then felt like I wouldn’t be showing the data correctly. So I went with what the data provides.


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